Some Day

Some Day

Someday I will write a poem for you and I will not
mention the air or the night;
a poem with no reference to names of flowers,
with no jasmines or magnolias.

Someday I will write you a poem without birds or
fountains, a poem that eludes the sea
and does not look to the stars.

Someday I will write you a poem that will just
caress your skin
and change your glance to words.

Without comparisons, without metaphors, some
day, I will write a poem that smells like you,
a poem with the rhythm of your pulse, with the
crushing intensity of your embrace.

Someday I will write a poem for you, the song of
my happiness.

– Dario Jaramillo Agudelo (from Love Poems, 1986)

Bangalore (Day 2)

Breakfast at the guesthouse was a delicious (spicy? of course!) upma. The wikipedia article is wrong: in Konkani, rulão means semolina, but I digress. It came with a (spicy) coconut chutney and a medium sambar. And a tiny cup of extremely sweet tea.

I should have carried my camera to the dining room and taken pictures, but I was too jetlagged to remember that early in the morning.

After breakfast, we sauntered out and Mom wanted to visit St. Mary’s Basilica there before we went and did anything else. We asked the caretaker how to get there. No one around the guest-house knew where it was or how to get there. So I pointed to the next thing on my list, the fruit and vegetable market and the caretaker remembered that yes, there was a church near the market, so we decided to go there. We piled into two rickshaws with loud two-stroke propane engines (yes, Bangalore has propane/lpg public transit and filling stations) and went to the market.

Serendipitously, the church in question next to the fruit and vegetable market was St. Mary’s Basilica. Continue reading

Bangalore (day1)

My sister, her family and my parents had planned a trip to Bangalore and Mysore and I tagged along with them. We got to Bangalore (where my god-mother had worked and had contacts), so instead of a hotel we had access to a government guest-house in the center of the city.

We took a cab from the airport to the guest-house. I was looking at the scenery – I’d been to Bangalore only once before way back in 1996. From what I remembered, Bangalore had the feel of a small city (I was living in Mumbai then, every other place in India was small :) and had lots of tree-lined boulevards and streets. This time around, a lot of the trees seemed to have been cut down to widen the roads (except in the rich parts of town, where they kept the same narrow roads, only made them one-way). Pretty soon, I could tell if we were in a rich or poor part of town.

We got to the guest house (which was on a one-way street, of course) and they had only one room free. The rest of my family took it in stride. Put seven people in one room? No problem. I wondered if I would last the night and if it would be better for me to see if the hotel across the road had room, but we decided to play it by ear (the room was reasonably large – about 16′x32′, with a bathroom 6′x12′ and a kitchen 6′x’12′. We changed, showered and stepped out to meet Bangalore.

My brother-in-law and I stopped at the railway reservation counter to book our tickets to Mysore and it seemed like nothing had changed.

Queues? What queues?

Of all the possible things that can drive you nuts about India, this is the one thing that annoys me the most. There seems to be some great fear that if you don’t crowd the counter, you may never get your turn. When I’m queuing for service, I find it amusing to stand in the proper (for an American) place and wait for the customer service rep to notice you. Which they do, without fail.

We had lunch at the guest house – amazing vegetarian food: two kinds of dal, some rumali rotis, carrots cooked in spices and shredded coconut, rice and curd. The carrots were spicy and delicious, making me want to learn how to cook them.

I had made a list of things I’d want to see in Bangalore, so after lunch I pulled it out and handed it to my Mom and Sister. One of the parks was pretty close to where we were staying so we cleaned up and went on to Cubbon Park. A lot of the park was under renovation and we didn’t want to wander around looking at the natural rock formations that were in the park. The kids (my nephews) spotted an aquarium and children’s park across the street, which was part of the same park, so we went there instead. The aquarium was closed. The children’s park had a toy railway which they had a lot of fun riding. We hung out there for a while and then went to the shopping strip of the city M. G. Road. I was a little disappointed, but my mom had fun buying amazing guavas from a street vendor.

We got back to the guest house, I checked in with the caretaker and they had another two-bedroom suite free (with four beds!). They hadn’t given it to us in the morning because the kitchen was trashed and being repaired. We didn’t care about that, and I was happy that we could all at least sleep comfortably after dining on another amazing vegetarian meal.

Condoms are the new drug…

From the local newspaper

In what is seen by many as only a tip of the proverbial iceberg some students of two schools in Canacona were detained for possession of drugs and condoms in their school bags last May.

I can understand being detained for having drugs. But condoms?

Cricket!

Last year India started a faster version of cricket. In this style of cricket, a match is done in about four hours and is a spectacle, complete with cheerleading.

My nephews are hooked on the matches, so I watched one. It was a lot of fun – a lot. The cheerleading surprised me and I was excited to see the TV cameras switch to them during breaks. They didn’t do any long shots, just close ups, starting a pan from a pom-pom or from the head or feet. It was the ultimate tease: they panned down from their heads or hands, or up from their feet and always cut away right after they got to the knees or just before the camera showed any cleavage.

The trusted internet has pictures you may be interested in. I was very disappointed to find out that none of the cheerleaders were Indian.

There was also a scandal about a (very tame) blog post which caused the cheerleader in question to be fired.

Sigh. Such a strange country: Sex doesn’t exist. Skin is meant to be covered up. And kissing? In public? Unless you’ve just been married (and sometimes, not even then!), forget it.

(I’m not sure if anyone kisses in private either: there seems to be so much repressed sexuality around, it is palpable. But that may just be me.)

Feast of the Holy Cross

I was at the village of Santa Cruz at the celebration of the feast of the Holy Cross. Most villages have a patron saint (the village my Dad grew up in: Maina, Curtorim has St. Rita as the patron. The village my Mom grew up in: Cança, Tivim has St. Christopher). We had the Holy Cross.

The last time I celebrated this feast was in 1992.

I was surprised at how crowded the church was. Feast masses in general get very crowded, but this was insane. They had put in seats behind the altar, had taken over the road, and there were people in the courtyard of the parish priest’s living quarters.

I loved the priest (who was visiting from another parish) and his homily. Most priests are cut from the same mould as the TV preachers. All doom/gloom/you are sinners and will suffer in hell/JC died for your sins/and a random out of context story that’s suppose to illustrate the point. This guy was present, down to earth and funny. He had the congregation chuckling which amazed me.

He started by welcoming the zante (older dudes) who only come to church on All Souls Day, Easter and the feast day which caused everyone to chuckle and look around trying to spot the visitors. But what I loved most about his homily was his almost buddhist/zen take on things.

I have written earlier about the propensity of Goans to be negative, even when agreeing with you. The other trait that Goans have is to be dismissive and contemptive. I spent some time being depressed and torn when I recognized those traits in me and I know I’m a lot more accepting, compassionate and less of a self-centered asshole now.

Goans have been also described as a bunch of crabs in a basket. If you haven’t seen a bunch of crabs in a basket, it’s very informative: one crab will try to crawl out of the basket, and the other crabs will pull it back in. Terry Pratchett had something to say about that too, but I must add that I haven’t noticed that ‘feature’ in the people I interact with in San Francisco.

Anyway, the homily touched a lot on these two traits and that made me very happy. I was also surprised: Change? Coming from the Catholic Church? What next?

Church of the Holy Cross in Santa Cruz, Goa.

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Getting directions…

When going somewhere you have never been to, the kind of directions you get are along the lines of “start at the bus stop, go straight, turn left at the mango tree, then turn right at the cross by the side of the road… etc, etc.”. They get interesting sometimes when the mango tree falls in a storm, in which case the directions go “turn left at where the mango tree used to be…”. I don’t remember what happens when people forget that a mango tree used to exist there, but it’s been at least five years and my parents still say that.

Anyway, I was excited to find out that Google maps gives out directions for Goa, so I thought I should conduct an experiment to see how the directions differ. Here’s the result.

Directions

Well played, Google. Well played.

Edit: the landmarks are important because cardinal directions are only used for macro directions (as in Kerala is to the south or that-a-way (point in a random direction)). And most streets do not have names (those that do have illegible signs/signs placed in unreadable -from-the-road locations).

Travel update 1

I’m just back from a trip to Goa and have been up since around 3:30am local time. This is one trip I was not that excited about making since there were too many other things going on that I wanted to get a handle on, and it was obvious in the extreme procrastination games I was playing. I think I packed the last item in my bag while the cab-driver was waiting for me.

The cab driver was a character. We spoke for a while in English and we both seemed to have accents so we exchanged our origins. He was from Brazil and got really excited when I told him I was from Goa and started speaking to me in rapid Portuguese. He got even more excited when I said “mia famila fala Portugues, mais eu nao” saying “no, no, that was fluent – what would you think if I said My family speaks English, but I don’t?” Then we switched to talking about music and he put on some Sambas and danced me all the way to the terminal.

I got to the airport, and was one of the last people to check in. I was also the last person to get on the plane.

I’ve always loved take-offs and landings. But the last few times I’ve travelled, I’ve noticed that I can’t seem to stay awake once the plane starts moving. It’s like a drug or something, the plane leaves the gate, starts its engines and I nod off. Very frustrating, specially when it makes me miss the drinks cart when it comes around the first time.

After a long a boring flight, half of which I slept through, I landed in Bombay/Mumbai at 1:20am. The Lufthansa pilot was very apologetic for getting us there 20 minutes late. There weren’t any other flights that landed with us, so I got through immigration really quickly, picked up my checked in bag and headed for the red channel, ignoring the customs officer that was directing me to the green channel.

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How to make Coconut Oil

Step 1: shell and dry the coconuts.

Step 2: take it to the local mill and get it pressed.

Back when we were poor, the leftover cake was used in cooking. Now, it’s used as mulch.

Step 3: let the oil cool overnight and then disinfect/dry it in the sun.

Offline Day

Some friends and I are doing the 3 year challenge, one of the features of which is a monthly X day.

3 Year Challenge

Monthly X Day
An “X Day” is a day where you unplug from stimulus. Unplug your phone, unplug your computer and unplug your tv. You also take a vow of silence on this day. Use the day to do soulful things, to reconnect. Be out in nature, paint a picture, read something uplifting.

I’ve picked the a day at the beginning of the month, on the theory that I’m more likely to do it if it’s right at the start of the month. My X-day is tomorrow. And I’ll be modifying the ‘vow of silence part’ to mean that can speak when spoken to or only if necessary, at least for the first few months.

If you need to get hold of me, you’ll have to do it the old-fashioned way. I’m also planning on being at Muddy’s on 24th and Valencia from 6-9pm, so thats a possibility.